In this follow-up to their impactful conversation, Kokeb and Fran Rubio-Katz (aka Coach Franny) dive deeper into the transformative idea of “Quit Taking It Personally” (QTIP), a tool rooted in Conscious Discipline. Fran shares personal stories and professional strategies to help therapists, teachers, and parents shift away from behavior-based expectations and lean into co-regulation, connection, and collaboration. They explore how taking things personally can impact your energy, your sessions, and your relationships—with children, students, and clients—and what to do instead. From embracing a mindset of curiosity to letting go of control, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone supporting children with complex needs.

Fran also introduces key concepts from the upcoming Mindfulness in Action: A Toolkit for Calm, Connection, and Co-Regulation training—designed to equip you with actionable tools and language to bring these ideas to life.

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Highlights:

[00:00 ] Defining QTIP and how it helps shift your mindset

[02:00 ] A story of using a physical Q-tip to stay grounded during tough sessions

[03:30 ] “It’s not about you” – why ego can block authentic service and connection

[05:00 ] Goal-setting without pressure—especially for kids on the autism spectrum

[07:30 ] Meeting clients where they are vs. needing to “succeed” in a session

[09:00 ] Coaching tip: Focus on expectations, not behaviors

[10:30 ] Prioritizing safety and co-creating solutions with kids

[13:00 ] Collaboration over compliance—why connection fosters flow

[17:00 ] Why teaching problem-solving matters more than getting kids to “follow rules”

[20:00 ] Rewiring your own mindset—why the homework matters

[22:00 ] From authoritarian to authoritative: balancing structure and nurture

[26:00 ] Workshop invitation – build skills, get tools, and start implementing now!

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Reflex Integration Through Play - Mindfulness in Action: A Toolkit for Calm, Connection & Co-Regulation - Reflex Integration Through Play

A four-part series for parents, educators, and pediatric professionals—including OTs, PTs, and SLPs. Learn how to show up calm, steady, and ready to co-regulate—even when things get hard.